How to Break Through Limiting Beliefs


Who is stopping you from living your dreams? It’s easy to put the blame off onto someone else, but if you take an honest look at your situation you’ll find that the answer is you. That’s right, I said it.  You are stopping yourself. You’ve convinced yourself that you can’t do this or that based on preconceived ideas about what is possible.  You might have gotten these ideas from what others in society have told you. You might have gotten them from experiences you’ve had in the past. Wherever they came from you have to understand that they aren’t necessarily true.

My limiting beliefs …

I always told myself that I could not speak in public because I was too afraid and that fear paralyzed me. This is the limitation I put on myself. It was based on past experiences. When I was eight years old I had to speak in church. That didn’t go so well. I sobbed, threw my bible on the floor, and then ran into the woods behind the church to hide.

In high school, I had to present a book report on A Brave New World  in front of the class. Again that didn’t go so well. I only managed to get two words out of my mouth before running to the bathroom and throwing up. These too experiences were my focus whenever I thought about public speaking. Because of these experiences, I assumed that I was too frightened to be able to speak in public. There was a problem with that assumption though.

I thought English in Korea for six years. That was essentially public speaking before a small group six days a week for six years, but I never thought of it like that. It didn’t count as public speaking because I decided it didn’t. It didn’t count because it didn’t fit into the story I tell myself about my inability to speak in front of people.

Recently, I decided to challenge this idea, because I felt that my fear was holding me back.  So I decided to change my story. I could speak in front of people, I just needed some practice. So I joined Toastmasters and now I practice dealing with my fear just about every week.

The shocking thing about this story is that my public speaking isn’t that bad and doing it doesn’t really scare me that much. Yes I feel nervous, my heart pounds, and my armpits sweat before a speech, but I can deal with it. It certainly isn’t paralyzing fear. I needed the experience though to discover that the story I was telling myself was wrong.

Fleas in a jar …

Zig Ziglar used to tell a story about how to train fleas. Fleas can jump vertically about seven inches. If you put a flea in a jar it would just jump out, but do you know how to keep a flea from jumping out of a jar? Put a lid on it.

When you put the lid on the jar the fleas will keep jumping and bumping their tiny little flea heads on the lid. They’ll do that over and over again. Check back in an hour, and they’ll still be jumping and bumping their heads on the lid of the jar, but at some point they’ll figure out that there is something over them and all this head bumping isn’t doing them any good. You know what they’ll do then. They’ll make an adjustment and start jumping just a little lower then the lid to avoid hitting their heads.

Once they do that you’ve got them. You can take the lid off the jar and those fleas will continue jumping to the point just below where the lid once was and never jump out of the jar. The limitation (the lid) isn’t there anymore, but that doesn’t matter. They’re not going to test it out anymore because they’ve accepted that their ability to jump has been limited. Now they are limiting themselves.

Most of us do the same thing. We put limits on how high we can jump and never dare test out anything beyond that. Some braves souls will test it, but if they fail they say to themselves, “That was hard. I’m definitely not doing that again.”

Running a four-minute mile …

Tony Robbins likes to tell the story of the four-minute mile to illustrate an important point about limitations.

In 1954, Roger Bannister ran a four-minute mile. He was the first one to do it. Before that people thought that such a thing was impossible. Human beings were physically unable to move that fast. Roger Bannister didn’t believe that though and by reaching for and achieving something that was thought to be impossible, he opened the door for others to achieve it.

Since then many people have run that fast and even faster. Running a four-minute mile is the standard for middle distant male runners. Bannister raised the bar. He showed everyone else what was possible. Once they saw the possibility others were able to rise to the challenge.


What are your self-imposed limitations?

What artificial limits have you put on yourself? Have you decided that you can only have a certain level of success? Have you decided that your passion could never be your career? Have you decided that your life has to be lived a certain way? Do these limiting beliefs make you happy? Let me be presumptuous and say that most of the time they probably  don’t. Otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this post.

Now is the time to make a change. That change starts with imagining the possibilities for your life.

What are the possibilities? They are anything you want them to be. The only limitations on you are the ones you put there yourself.

Write down something that you want to accomplish that you just haven’t been able to do yet. Maybe you want to start your own business and get out of the corporate world. Maybe you want to write a novel. Maybe you want to start painting again or learn to play a musical instrument.

Why haven’t you started doing it yet? Write down all of your excuses? Why haven’t you started moving in the direction you really want to be going in? Make the excuses good ones. Maybe your scared of failing. Maybe you don’t have the funds to get started. Maybe you’re afraid that you’re not as talented as you thought you were. Fear is usually what your limitations are really all about. Do you have your list of excuses? Good.

Breaking through your limits …

Now that you’re clear on why you haven’t yet, let’s look at how you can.

For every excuse you’ve written now I want you to write down two things: a reason why you want to achieve that goal and how you can do it.

For example let’s say that you want to learn how to play the guitar, but you’ve written as excuses that you don’t have a guitar, you are uncoordinated, and you have no musical ability.

You have three excuses written down so think of at least three reasons why you want to play the guitar. Maybe it seems like fun. Maybe you’d like to express yourself musically. Maybe you want to lead a sing-a-long with friends. Think of as many reasons why as you can. Make sure you write at least as many reasons as you wrote excuses.

The first problem is that you don’t have a guitar. How can you solve that problem? You could buy a guitar. If you don’t have enough money to do that, you can put aside some money every month to save up to buy a guitar. If you have a friend or relative who has a guitar, you could see if they would let you borrow it.

The second problem is that you are uncoordinated. If you’ve ever learned to play a musical instrument you know that it is difficult at first. The coordination isn’t there. It comes with practice. That’s true for most anyone. Being uncoordinated is no excuse for not starting. You build coordination by doing the finger exercises people do when they learn the guitar.

The third problem is your lack of musical ability. Again most people don’t come out of the womb holding a ukelele and singing a song. You can develop musical ability over time. You just need to be willing to put in the effort and practice everyday. Can you find thirty minutes in the day to practice. You probably can. Do it thirty minutes everyday and before you know it you’ll be able to play a song.

Now that you have your list of why you want to do it and how you can make it possible, cross off all of your excuses and get to work.

My point is that you just need to figure out what you really want to do and start doing it. No limitations. Just begin and work toward it a little at a time. You don’t need to have everything figured out. You just need to start and things will start to fall into place … if you do the work. You don’t have to be trapped in the walls that you’ve put up around yourself or that society has put up around you. You can bust out of all that and do what makes you happy. You can go further than you’ve ever imagined. I know you can. You just need to believe, and then do the work required to make it happen.

Learn to Love Yourself


I’m sure you’ve heard of the Golden Rule. Most of us had. In case you’ve been living under a rock and haven’t heard it, I’ll tell you what it is … “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.” Basically, it’s treat others the way you want to be treated. That’s a simple idea, right? It makes sense.

I like to turn the golden rule on its head sometimes. I call this the Platinum Rule. Okay, I don’t really call it that. I just made that name up a few seconds ago, but it sounds pretty good. I think I’ll use it from now on. The Platinum Rule is “Treat yourself like you want others to treat you.”

Many of us treat the people around us much better than we treat ourselves. We’re nicer to them. We don’t criticize them as harshly. We give them the benefit of a doubt. How many times have you beaten yourself up for the tiniest mistake? Yet, you’ve been able to forgive someone else for a similar mistake. That’s not right.

The world looks for clues about how to treat you from the example you set. How are you telling others to treat you? Are you telling them to be harsh and unforgiving? Are you telling them that you are not good enough, that you deserve nothing?

Sometimes, we find it harder to be kind to ourselves then we do others. It might be because we know ourselves so well. We know our imperfections and shortcomings. We know our most terrible thoughts.

You cannot be truly happy until you learn to treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve. You deserve it. Do you know how I know? I know because we all deserve it.

When I was in my late teens and early twenties I found this to be nearly impossible. All I saw when I looked in the mirror was disappointment. I didn’t look like the beautiful women in the magazines. I didn’t have the personalities of the sparkly, shiny people on television. I thought I didn’t have much value to offer anyone. I was lonely and deeply sad.

I’ve always had a bit of anxiety about dealing with other people. That’s something that I tend to beat myself up about. I’m shy. I’m quiet. I’d rather stay at home and read a good book than go to a party. I used to think I was the only one who was like that and that made me somehow less than other people.

When I was in my early twenties I got a job working at a bank. The training lasted one week and on the first day everyone went their separate ways for lunch. I always had a good book in the car just in case that happened. So I went to McDonald’s to have my lunch alone. Yes, I used to eat at McDonald’s. I don’t know what I was thinking.

Anyway, I was eating my hamburger and fries at the table near the window when I noticed one of the women from the bank teller training going through the drive through window. Once she got her food, she parked in a space in the parking lot and sat in her car to eat. It was cold out and something about the scene seemed so sad to me. I’m a writer, so I was able to make up a million stories about why she might’ve chosen to eat in her car alone instead of coming in and sitting at a table.

That’s the moment when I realized that we are all the same. Yeah, we all have our different strengths, but I’m not the only one with anxiety problems. I’m not the only one who is disappointed in herself. I’m not the only one who feels awkward at the party.

You don’t know what’s going on in the lives of others. You don’t know what their inner demons are. You don’t know what they struggle with daily. We all have struggles many are different, some are the same.


How to love yourself …

Don’t dwell on your mistakes. Forgive yourself. So what, you screwed up. We all do sometimes. Acknowledge it, do what you can to right it, and move on. No one is perfect, and thank goodness for that. If the world were full of perfect people it would be a pretty boring place. If you’re messing things up sometimes that means you’re doing something right. Beating yourself up over mistakes you’ve made once won’t change the mistake, and it certainly won’t help you.

Stop criticizing yourself. It’s an easy trap to fall into. Often times there is a gap between where you are and where you want to be. That’s what keeps you striving, learning, growing, and reaching out to discover something new. You need to silence that inner voice that is tearing you down. You need to build yourself up. Whenever you start criticizing yourself replace that thought with something you’re thankful for.

Stop worrying all the gosh-darn time. I’m a worrier. I’m a lot better than I used to be, but worry still tends to creep into my thoughts sometimes. The thing about worry is that you’re fretting over something that hasn’t happened and may never happen. Many times I find that when I worry I’m making a mountain out of a mole hill. I’m making a big deal out of something that might not happen, and if it does happen, so what. I’ll deal with it. Worrying is a waste of time.

Be kind to yourself …

Affirmation exercise …

Okay so this is the part where I tell you to look in the mirror and say somethings to yourself … I know … I know … I used to feel the same way about it, but doing this helped me feel way better about myself. Just trust me on this one and do it.

We all have imperfections. We all make mistakes. We have to learn to love ourselves imperfections and all. Yes, you should try to improve upon what yourself. I’m all for that, but you also need to accept yourself. You, my friend are a unique individual who is worthy of love and respect.

For this first exercise I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and say this out loud…

I love you even though …

Finish this sentence with mistakes you’ve made or things about yourself that you are disappointed in or upset by.

For example …

I love you even though you still haven’t lost that last ten pounds.

I love you even though you procrastinate important tasks.

Look at yourself right in the eyes as you say finish this sentence. Think of at least ten things to say. If you can think of more say more. Say it like you mean it. Say it until you really feel it. It’s hard to talk about our weaknesses aloud even when there is no one else around, but it can also be quite freeing.

Now that you’ve done that, I want you to complete this sentence.

I love you because …

This is the part where you think of specific things that you like about yourself. think of specific moments in your life that make you proud. Think of qualities that you have that are good.

I love you because you had the courage to travel the world alone.

I love you because you sincerely care about other people.

Again think of at least ten things to say, but if you can think of more than ten things to say that’s great. Keep going. Remember to look yourself in the eyes and say it like you mean it.

Do this everyday for thirty days. It only takes a few minutes and it will greatly affect the way you feel about yourself.

Once you feel better about yourself you’ll find it easier to make positive lasting change in your life.

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Confronting Your Fears Will Help You Feel More Alive … Just Saying

What have you done to step outside of your comfort zone recently? It is far too easy for us to get too comfortable, even lazy. We tend to think I can pay my bills, I like my work, my family is perfectly acceptable, I have a year’s worth of Fruit Loops in the cupboard, and all is good. Then we sit back on our laurels and relax. Relaxing is good. I’m all for relaxing, but when you get too relaxed you stop growing.

This quote seems a bit dramatic, but Einstein was a bit of a drama queen. You know what he means though.

This quote seems a bit dramatic, but Einstein was a bit of a drama queen. You know what he means though … right?

Part of living is learning, stretching, and reaching just beyond what you thought possible. That’s why I decided to join Toastmasters International. For those of you who don’t know, Toastmasters is a public speaking group. I’ve been thinking about joining for years, but could never really get my nerve up.

You probably don’t know this, but I’m painfully shy. Even trying to have a conversation with more than four people makes me an anxious, sweaty mess. My brain goes all mushy and I suddenly have no opinions about anything. Normally, I’m spouting off about my opinions to the people I live with all the time.

This morning I had to give my first speech in Toastmasters. It was impromptu, meaning I didn’t know the topic beforehand. I didn’t even know I was going to give a speech.

Let’s just say it went badly. I couldn’t think of anything to say. The speech was supposed to last 2 minutes and only took me 40 seconds. It was 40 seconds that felt like 4 hours of stammering and sweating in front of a group of strangers. Fortunately, I didn’t pass out … or collapse into a sobbing heap of pitifullness (apparently this isn’t a word, but I don’t care). When I was finished, I returned to my seat feeling nauseous and humiliated.

When you try something new you can’t expect the first time to go exactly as planned. Yes, in my mind I’m a killer public speaker, but in reality that will take time and tons of practice. Meanwhile, working at doing something that scares me makes me feel good in an anxious, stomach-turning sort of way … good anxious stomach-turningness (also not a word). No week is really complete unless you’ve felt you might throw up at least once, right?

Maybe I’m a glutton for punishment, but I’ll keep going back. After all I already paid my membership fees and I believe in getting my money’s worth. Also I want to get over my fear of public speaking once and for all. I need to be ready for my presentation at the International UFO Festival next year;)

How have you challenged yourself recently? Is there something that scares you that you know will improve your life if you could just get a handle on it? Start trying to conquer your fears and see how your life changes. You’ll never be fearless, no sane person is, but you’ll learn to feel the fear and do it anyway. That’s something that a lot of successful people have mastered.


Meditation Will Make you Happier, Healthier, and Help You Achieve Your Goals


I’m not a seasoned meditator by any means. I only started meditating roughly six months ago. I tried my hand at it before that, but was never very successful. Sitting quietly trying not to think about anything whilst beating myself up because I keep thinking and then worrying that I’ll never be able to get this right was the kind of meditation I was doing before. All of that changed recently though, and now I want to tell everybody, including you, about meditation. I want to stand on the mountaintops and yell, “You should be meditating, gosh darn it.”

I’m a practical gal who likes to know how something might benefit me before I do it. I also like to know that there is some kind of research to back stuff up. I could just write a little post about how meditation has changed my life and leave it as that, but I think I owe you a bit of an explanation. I also hope to compel you to give it a try if you’re not doing it already.

The benefits of mediation …

Meditation reduces your stress and anxiety levels. This was especially attractive to me because I used to be quite a worrier. Since beginning a meditation practice I’ve noticed a steady drop in the amount of worrying I do.

Worrying kills your ability to solve problems and zaps your creative energy. When you meditate your heart rate decreases and your breathing slows enabling you to relax. Boy, does that make a difference when you are trying to make art. Just being able to relax gives a boost to my ability to create.

Meditation helps build brain connectivity. It may even slow the thinning of connections associated with age related problems like dementia.

It helps increase your awareness. I don’t know if you know anyone who seems like they sleepwalk through life. Maybe you feel like you do that yourself. I think a lot of people do, but once you start meditating you become more aware of what is going on in the world around you. That may be connected to the increased brain connectivity. They found that monks who meditate have heightened sensory, auditory, and visual perception.

By far the most interesting research I’ve read about meditation suggests that people who meditate are better at self-regulation. They are better able to change their behaviors to help them achieve their goals.

You can read about the research behind these claims by clicking the links above. With all these benefits why wouldn’t you try meditation? It seems easy enough and it only takes a few minutes from day.

I’ll give you a good reason or what I thought was a darn good reason not to try it. It’s hard. It’s hard to think about nothing and to quiet your thoughts. It’s hard to stop looking at the computer, all the gosh darn time. Think about this, how much would you benefit if you just decided to do something that may be hard at first that will change your life?


Since meditating I’ve noticed a marked decrease in my stress and anxiety levels. I’m better at managing my time. I’m better at getting things done. Somehow taking time to meditate actually seems to give me more time during the day, not less. On top of all of that, I’m way more creative. If I can’t think of anything to write taking a few minutes to do a quick meditation really helps.

Here are some You Tube videos I used to help me learn to meditate. Starting out doing these guided meditations helped me figure out what to do. Now I meditate without them.

Try it. Take just a few minutes starting today to be calm, and quiet, and still. It will change your life if you stick with it, I promise.

How to Start Writing


Writing is hard work. That’s why so many people who say they want to write a book never get around to doing it. It takes discipline and determination to sit down and confront that blank page day after day.

Most people are completely capable of that kind of discipline. Most people could write a book if they really put their minds to it, but most people don’t have a strong enough reason to do it. You find the courage to write if your reason to write is strong enough.

I write because I have a story to tell. I have a message that I feel compelled to share with the world. If you’ve been reading this blog for any length of time you already know what the message is. It is that we have limitless potential, but as people we tend to sell ourselves short and settle for less than we should. It’s a shame really and if my  writing inspires just one person to step out into the big wide open and start living their dream, I’ve done my job.

So, why do you want to write? You don’t have to have a big message to tell. You might just want to entertain people after they’ve finished a hard day at work. That’s great. Entertainment is an important part of life.

So, what’s your message? What do you want to share with the world through your writing?

It is important that you have a strong sense of purpose because that sense of purpose will carry you through when times get rough. That sense of purpose will keep you motivated when it seems like the words just won’t come out of you.

Now that you know why you’re writing, it time to get to the business at hand … actually sitting down and doing the writing. Here are some tips to help you get started.


Set aside a time to write. If you don’t schedule writing into your day, it’s more than likely that you just won’t get around to it. That’s why you need to set a time that you will dedicate to writing everyday. You might have to get up a bit earlier than usual to get the time alone you need to work. Many people do that so they can have some quiet time. I’m not a morning person so I tend to write at night. Whatever time is best for you is fine. We’re all different.

Find a space. You’ll need a space to write. It should be a quiet corner of your home that doesn’t get a lot of through traffic. I write in my bedroom. Right now I don’t even have a desk. I just have a TV table set up in the corner and a good chair. Put things in that space that inspire your creativity. Hang some paintings and pictures you like. Put quotes on the wall that motivate you. Keep inspiring books nearby.

Tell people in your household about your new writing schedule. Make sure people know that this is your writing time and not to disturb you. Don’t take any phone calls or surf the web. This time is for you and your writing.

Get rid of all distractions. I just mentioned phone calls and the internet. Phones and the internet can be the top distractions for writers. If you have a computer that doesn’t have an internet connection that you can use to write on that’s great. If not you might want to consider using a program like Cold Turkey that limits what you can access on your computer during times that you set. I use it to block me from getting on distracting sites like Facebook, Twitter, and You Tube.

Now that you’ve got your writing space and time set up you need to figure out what to write.

A lot of your writing time early on might consist of sitting and thinking. That’s fine. I find that I like to think about a story quite a bit before I actually start writing it. It is important to get words down though otherwise you’re not writing, you’re just thinking.

Start out by doing some stream of consciousness writing. Just write down what’s on your mind and see where it takes you. I have found that  I can end up with a story or personal essay that goes in some pretty interesting directions just from writing down some silly thoughts in my head.

Writing prompts can also be helpful. I never use them, but a lot of people do. They can be a good writing exercise. Writer’s Digest puts writing prompts up on their site to give you ideas for stories. Find them here. There are lots of sites that put up writing prompts. Just do a “creative writing prompts” search online and you’ll find plenty of sites.

When you’re feeling stuck sometimes just changing something will help. Write outside on your porch or at a park if the weather is nice. Go to the library to write.

When I’m feeling stuck about what to write, I find that simply changing the way I’m writing helps a lot. For example, I wrote the first draft for this post in a notebook. I often write by hand when I have trouble getting started. It works for me just about every time.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Just write. Don’t look back at it and get all judgmental in the beginning. You’re just trying to start the habit. As you practice you’ll get better. There is always a gap between what you want to do and what you can actually do. That’s healthy. It keeps you growing and striving.

So get to writing and don’t forget to have a good time while you’re doing it.



How to Reclaim Your Creativity


The buzz of an alarm clock woke you up this morning. You showered, dressed, saw your family off to school and work, before joining the masses commuting to their nine to five jobs. You sit in traffic listening to the radio and wondering when your life turned into this.

Why are you spending most of your days at a job you don’t care about anymore? Why are you working so hard to build someone else’s company? Whatever happened to your ideas … your dreams? Whatever happened to you?

When you were younger you had time to dream, to create. You painted. You drew. You wrote stories that brought your thoughts to life. You wrote songs that laid your heart bare to the world. Doing all of that made you feel so alive.

Sometime between then and now you stopped creating. You got too busy. Life got in the way of that meditative time alone when your mind was free to imagine and dream. I know how it happens because it happened to me too.

Now you’re ready to reclaim your creativity, recapture your dreams, and feel alive again. Here are some steps to help you get started.

How to reclaim your creativity …

Remember that it’s possible. Look back at your old work. Read a story you wrote in college. Look through your old art portfolio. Find those recordings of songs you wrote and listen to them. Don’t be judgmental or harsh with yourself. Leave your inner critic in the next room, and look, and listen with an open heart. Remember how the act of creating made you feel.

Find inspiration. Go to a museum. Look at the work of your favorite artists online. Listen to the music you love. Read an author that inspires you.

Write down your ideas. Inspiration hits you when you least expect it. Carry a small notebook with you where you can jot down ideas when they hit. Often times, I get great ideas for stories or blog posts in bed just before sleeping. If I don’t write the idea down, I never remember it in the morning. The ideas that you write down will help you when you’re sitting in front of a blank page feeling stuck.

Set aside time. This may be the hardest part. Having no time is the reason you stopped creating in the first place, but I assure you that if you make art one of your priorities, you’ll be able to find time. Start with just fifteen minutes a day. Just take fifteen minutes everyday to work on creating something. You might have to wake up fifteen minutes earlier to do it. You might have to give up a television show to find the time. Look at your schedule and find fifteen minutes that you can dedicate to your art. Once you get into creating, that fifteen minutes will soon become thirty or an hour or more.

Enjoy the process. For me the best thing about art is the feeling I have while I’m doing it. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t look at what you’re making, decide it sucks, and then give up. Be in the moment and enjoy the process of creating. Feel the joy in it and start to live again.


What’s Your Motivating Principle?


What do you believe in? What is the motivating principle behind what you do? What is the idea that makes your soul hum? Do you have one? I’m sure you do, you just haven’t acknowledged it yet.

Having an overarching principle that you stand for will help motivate you when times get tough. It will help keep you focused when you start to drift.

Mine is written as the subheading for this blog, and I thought I’d take a moment to explain it to you.

Imagine the possibilities …

Many people sell themselves short. They don’t have a broad vision for themselves. They don’t see what is possible in their lives. Instead they follow the status quo and live the lives they feel like they should. They may ignore their dreams. They might not even think that they can dream, but every success starts with a dream. Every big change begins with a tiny idea that grew.

I know that people are often times capable of much more than they give themselves credit for. They can do amazing things that change the lives of others and change the world. They just need to have that vision for themselves first. Then they need to start taking consistent action to make that vision a reality.

The first step is having the dream. The first step is being able to imagine what is possible for you. That’s why the phrase imagine the possibilities is at the top of this blog. That’s why I write. I want to inspire people to recognize what is possible for them.


That’s what I stand for, but what do you stand for? Why do you do the things you do? If you don’t know yet start to think about it. What are your interests? What common thread runs through the entertainment you seek out … the conversations you have … the books you read? Name it. define it. Write it down so when you find yourself drifting you can remind yourself what you’re doing and why.

What principle motivates you?

Consistent Action is Key


I did a headstand today. It may sound like nothing to you, but for me it really mattered. You see, I’m not exactly the most graceful person in the world. I’d trip and fall all the time. I drop stuff a lot, especially in stores. Luckily, I shop mainly in thrift stores, so if I break a vase it’s probably not going to cost me anymore than a couple bucks.

Anyway besides being clumsy, I do yoga–clumsy yoga. I have for a number of years, but there are certain postures that just always seem beyond me. Headstands and handstands are two of them. It’s a combination of skill and fear that prevents me from doing these two postures.

Recently, I’ve decided to take a new approach to both my yoga practice and my life. I’ve decided to chose on thing and focus on getting it done.

There are so many distraction in today’s society that it’s no wonder that most people feel overwhelmed. The day comes to an end and even though you were busy all day you find yourself wondering what you did exactly. At least I do.

Setting aside time each day to consistently work on a specific task has helped me accomplish something I thought would be impossible. Part of the solution was breaking the task down into definable steps. Learning to do a headstand started with doing more shoulder strengthen postures and putting my head down like I was going to go into a headstand but not doing it yet. I was just practicing the first steps and putting together the individual pieces … strong shoulder girdle, strong core, hip and leg flexibility.

With consistent daily practice I was able to do a headstand in thirty days. That’s pretty good considering how impossible it seemed to me when I started this task.


I’ve been using the same technique to finish the podcast I’d recorded of my first novel, The Box. I’ll be editing the last bit of it today. Then I’ll just need to figure out how to make the files into MP3s.

Both of these tasks seemed too large to accomplish just thirty days ago, but committing to work on them for a few minutes daily made them totally achievable.

Consistent action is the key. If you have something that you’ve always wanted to do that just seems impossible, try breaking it down into smaller steps. Then work on it for a short amount of time everyday until the task is accomplished. You’ll be surprised at what you can achieve.

This Too Shall Pass … Long-Term Thinking will Help You Manage Short-Term Problems


Yesterday wasn’t a good day for me. I discovered aphids on my tomato plants. I’ve been editing together chapters of my novel, The Box, into a podcast and managed to lose the edits for an entire episode. I’d been working for hours on these edits trying to figure out how to use effects to make my voice sound good and all of my work was lost. I know I should be saving as I go, but we don’t always do what we should. On top of that my head ached all day long and the pain just wouldn’t subside. I just felt generally like there were far too many things to do and not enough time.

We all have those days when we feel like dropping everything, driving to the airport, and hopping on the next plane to Turkey. Come on, I can’t be the only one.

There was a time when the events above would’ve sent me into an anxious worried state that prevented me from getting anything done at all. I would’ve dealt with the day by going back to bed, but I’ve turned over a new leaf … or at least I’m trying to.

One of the things that has worked the best for toning down my anxiety and helping me get through less than ideal situations is simply realizing that this too will pass. It seems cliche, but sometimes cliches are true. When you’re in the moment, it’s easy to get so wrapped up in it that you feel like it will last forever. Remembering that it won’t really goes a long way for me.


Thinking in the long-term brings your life into perspective. I’ll do something about the aphids. I’ll be re-edit that podcast episode tomorrow. My headache is most probably not an aneurysm and will go away. Looking at these concerns with today’s perspective they seem silly, but at the time they were huge to me. Maybe I’m a bit of a drama queen.

Remember to look at the long-term. We are constantly moving through time. Nothing lasts. The good and the bad all pass eventually. Experience them, feel them, and let them pass through your fingers tips to make room for the experiences that lay ahead.

Each day brings new experiences and new opportunities. The question is, what are you prepared to do with them?


Rest in Peace Dr. Maya Angelou


I was in a thrift store looking at vintage coffee pots when I heard the news on the radio. Maya Angelou had died and my heart grew heavy with grief.

Even as a young girl, Maya Angelou was someone I admired and respected. Then the cadence of her voice mesmerized me. I sat in awe of this tall black woman that everyone seemed to listen to. As I got older and started to understand more of what she said her wisdom astounded me. I used to wonder how someone could live such an exciting life. I used to wonder how anyone could experience so much in one lifetime.

She was one of the reasons I decided to become a writer. She was one of the reasons I started writing poetry. For her influence I will forever be grateful because this woman who I never really knew helped form some of the fundamental parts of me.

The world has lost a great woman today. She will definitely be missed.

Cole Haan “Maya Angelou (Director’s Cut)” from Ben Hughes on Vimeo.